Male Sexual Abuse Victims of Female Perpetrators

As I have been conducting my research in my local library and through various resources on the Internet, I have found an interesting piece regarding the sexual abuse of males by female perpetrators. I had thought of this before since I was abused by several people during childhood, and one of them was a female.

The reality that boys are sexually abused by women is not widely accepted. Some people view it as an impossible act - that a male can’t be sexually assaulted by a female - and others view it as sexually titillating. The existence of female perpetrators and male victims confronts many of our most firmly held beliefs about women, men, sexuality, power, and sexual assault. It challenges our very notions about what sex is.

The view that males always want and benefit from sex with females

A commonly held view of heterosexuality is that men are always wanting and seeking sex with females; males are dominant, while females are submissive. Men initiate sexual encounters, and women accept or decline male invitations for sex. If a female initiates sexual contact with a male, this is viewed as a rare and exciting opportunity that no man should let pass by; he should be grateful.

Given these beliefs, many people see nothing wrong with a woman pursuing a boy sexually. In fact, in some circles it is considered a good way to introduce boys to heterosexuality. Some fathers take their young sons to prostitutes with the mistaken belief that it is “good” for them. A number of movies, stories, jokes, and fantasies portray older women sexually “seducing” young boys in positive terms.

I agree that, most often, it is the males of our society whom are depicted as being the aggressors. Television is filled with abused females and very few abused males, if any. I recall watching this horrid court room drama about a wife whom was abusing her husband. The program continued and every few minutes the phrase: "Oh, come on, a strong guy like yourself couldn't protect yourself?"

It was such garbage. Believe it or not, many males do not choose to fight those weaker than them. North American society portrays most victims as females and the aggressors as males - thus giving people the impression males are brutish creatures with no control over their strength.

It couldn't be farther from the truth.

Read more on this here.